> But there are situations where I simply don't improve despite other people handling them naturally without effort
When you say you don't improve, are you referring to internally or externally, as in, are you not improving in that you can't pass for someone handling the situation, or not improving in that you can pass for handling the situation but you don't get any more comfortable?
When I actually started to improve I found that I had previously been going about it the wrong way around, where I was trying to force myself to feel comfortable hoping the cues and behaviours would come later, what actually helped was getting basic (basic to others anyway) tips and advice on how to fit into the situations and then letting the comfort and confidence come later.
Obviously we're in different life situations, but your perspective is super interesting here.
When you say you don't improve, are you referring to internally or externally, as in, are you not improving in that you can't pass for someone handling the situation, or not improving in that you can pass for handling the situation but you don't get any more comfortable?
When I actually started to improve I found that I had previously been going about it the wrong way around, where I was trying to force myself to feel comfortable hoping the cues and behaviours would come later, what actually helped was getting basic (basic to others anyway) tips and advice on how to fit into the situations and then letting the comfort and confidence come later.
Obviously we're in different life situations, but your perspective is super interesting here.