> Where in the US can I find that society?

Any western civilization has equality of individuals as one of their core values, next to democracy, separation of powers, freedom of speech, etc.

> Is it really difficult to admit that we don't yet live in a perfect society?

We will never live in a perfect society. That's why I say people should get with the program. Anti-asian violence is a crime that can and should be prosecuted.

So your entire argument falls down to: government says we're all equal, therefore equality achieved. It's as if everyone was simply making a giant fuss about racism and feminism that never existed for decades.