That's a hard disagree. The absolute VAST MAJORITY of SQL complexity is in the select queries (joins, groups, aggregation, window functions, cursors, filtering, procedures...), which are mostly not about mutation.
You’re right about SQL the language, but I think the role of MySQL in a PHP application is much more to manage state than to provide interesting SELECT queries. The popularity of ORM in this world shows that what 95% of applications are looking for is native-ish collections that can be mapped to disk and updated concurrently. PHP’s shared nothing architecture means it must externalize this responsibility, and MySQL/Postgres are the customary choices.
With actual SQL, most people don’t get beyond JOIN, which they mainly need in order to deserialize nested or pointer structures from normal form. I learned aggregation, grouping, and windowing working with Spark and Hive on warehouse replicas of my DBs/topics to troubleshoot and analyze my stuff. Never used one in an actual request handler.
