Annectotal, but the women I know, if anything, try to tone down the number of matches they get, and dates they go on, whereas for the men it's the other way around. You hear of every single match from a male friend.
Women do tend to make that claim in social circumstances but to be fair it's a pretty flattering self portrait. Could these women be exaggerating to make themselves look hot and unobtainable and the women who fail be keeping quiet.
I met guys who talk about their successful conquests on these apps and I get the feeling that a lot of that is just guys exaggerating or lying to impress others
I can say this I got a lot of dates in dating apps and I'm short and not very hot. My strategy was just ask for dates and play the numbers game - accept nos and just keep asking. I wasn't getting a lot of dates before I tried this strategy. I know another guy similarly situated who successfully used the same strategy.
Maybe it's not about the apps themselves but about how they are used and who uses them - eg. Shy guys who are nervous about asking girls on dates for example
> Men are more likely to say they got no matches on a dating site and complain
Does not really align with the fact that men tend to brag about their experience (hence: every single match is mentioned to friends)
> women are more likely to keep quiet of they get few to no matches and exaggerate the number they do get.
But they don't keep quiet, they complain about the quality of the men on display. And the ones who are successful usually don't mention it openly, to avoid negative connotations about promiscuity and such.
> Maybe men are more likely to blame the site or algorithm
In my experience, men tend to compain about the women (namely their behavior to be too picky). As apparent in this discussion as a whole.
> women are more likely to blame themselves
As mentioned, they're likely to blame the choice ("the grapes are sour"), or, if they get any matches, the quality of their dates.
> men must ask and make the first move in most cultures whereas women don't have to.
The book Sperm Wars talked about an interesting research about the number of sex partners for men and women. Is is well-known that men report double the amount of sex partners than women. People typically think this can be explained by men bragging i.e. exaggerating their numbers.
Researchers repeated the test by hooking men and women to a lie detector. While tge number of sex partners reported by men dropped a little, the interesting thing was that the number of sex partners reported by women raised a lot. Ultimately they were very close to each other.
I think the social stigma for women is higher for number of partners in general, and that explains the tendency to downplay numbers.
