I don't like dating apps (and I'm happy that I'm in a relationship and don't need to use them).
I think it's because I can't flirt on cue. A dating app is a very clear social situation (like a singles night, or speed dating, ...) where both sides know what they are looking for (be it a relationship, sex, romance...). But you can't "fall with the door into the house" as they say here. You have to navigate certain rituals of dating, you have to impress but but be natural, show interest but not too much, etc..
Contrast with how it worked before dating apps, you met people from your extended social circle. You had some non-romantic interaction first. There is a certain amount of ambiguity in the beginning. You can flirt and express interest without being on a formal date, and then ask them out. It can also be stressful and anxiety-inducing of course, but IMO much less than on the bazaar that is a dating app.
I think dating would work much better as a side-function of a regular social network app, than as a dedicated app (and I know quite some friends who met over the internet but not via dating apps). But alas, there is no business model there...
I think Facebook dating does this, but frankly I don't really like the idea of letting my whole family know I'm looking to date by throwing myself on Facebook
I don't mean the "dating relationship" stage, but much earlier, the first impression. It's quite intimidating if one of the few things somebody knows about you is that you are looking for a relationship/romance with them.
I think it's because I can't flirt on cue. A dating app is a very clear social situation (like a singles night, or speed dating, ...) where both sides know what they are looking for (be it a relationship, sex, romance...). But you can't "fall with the door into the house" as they say here. You have to navigate certain rituals of dating, you have to impress but but be natural, show interest but not too much, etc..
Contrast with how it worked before dating apps, you met people from your extended social circle. You had some non-romantic interaction first. There is a certain amount of ambiguity in the beginning. You can flirt and express interest without being on a formal date, and then ask them out. It can also be stressful and anxiety-inducing of course, but IMO much less than on the bazaar that is a dating app.
I think dating would work much better as a side-function of a regular social network app, than as a dedicated app (and I know quite some friends who met over the internet but not via dating apps). But alas, there is no business model there...